Ok, so we all know someone whether it’s a friend or family member that needs immediate attention, because of fear, when a giant spider has entered the house or a mouse has scurried across the floor before they will contemplate stopping the screaming.
People have numerous fears around a number of things, creatures that scuttle, open spaces, birds. And the fear is very real for them.
Now they will probably say to you I know it’s not logical. But here’s the thing, emotion will always beat logic. So however illogical it is those furry things will still scare them.
But how do they come about? Are we born with these fears and phobias? New born babies if they see a dog or cat they will wiggle their feet and reach their hands out to it. They are intrigued by everything. Why do some people have fears and phobias and others don’t?
How Do We Get Fears & Phobias
Firstly let’s look at the two parts of the mind.
The mind is divided between the conscious and the subconscious mind. Think of your mind like a giant iceberg. The tip of the iceberg is your conscious mind, which we can readily see. This gives us the ability to drive our car, to operate our computer and to analyze.
And the subconscious is the unseen bulk of the iceberg under the water.Here you store all of your lifetime experiences your beliefs, your mindsets, your past learnings, good or bad. For example, if you believe an idea to be true (and it may not be), it is stored in the subconscious, and you act from this, i.e. you form behaviours and habits based on these.
From a very early age, we photograph experiences and store them in our subconscious mind. These are stored as representational systems, i.e. visual, auditory, feelings, taste, and smell. When a situation occurs in life we see, hear and feel it, and put a meaning on it. So how we choose to interpret something has a major impact on our lives.
Some phobias are inherited from our parents. So imagine if you are a 3-year-old and your parents are very nervy around dogs and keep you away from dogs. They may have had a bad experience, or they just want to keep you safe. However, they are panicked about it. You will pick up on this because your young brain is not logical. You will see your parents are panicked and nervy and respond in the same way. Also, the job of the brain is to keep you safe. So even though you are now an adult you still feel the same way, you are reacting as that 3 years old.
Fears & Phobias Play The Part of Keeping Us Safe
You may have developed a phobia because you felt it would keep you safe. You may have developed a phobia of spiders because where you lived they were poisonous. So someone told you scary stories about them so you develop the phobia to keep you safe. But as an adult breaking down and going into a panic no longer serves you. It is redundant and no longer necessary. So you to let go of it. Because you have other ways as an adult, of keeping yourself safe.
Because this fear is in your subconscious mind and the subconscious mind is in control. It is like a puppeteer controlling you. So your conscious mind knows this is totally illogical but there is no way logic will over ride the emotion. So you need to get to the root of the issue.
Understanding is power. Understanding where and why you have this phobia will free you.
Schedule a free 20-minute consultation today to take those first steps of freeing yourself from those fears or phobias.